With a heavy heart, I am letting you know that Tilly Tot, our elderly shih tzu rescue dog, passed away this morning after surgery. My husband and I are, as you might guess, completely devastated. Two of our three dogs gone in four months.
I thank you all for travelling on this journey with me. I will have to do some soul-searching, but I doubt I will continue this blog. Your interest in our three dogs has been gratifying. I am going to leave the blog up for a little while because I do believe that these articles are of interest to some people who haven’t seen them yet.
Sandra, I am so sorry. I know you were already hurting with losing one, and now Tilly Tot.
I wish I had an answer to the question you posed to me earlier. I can give you all the pay sayings we all give each other, but the truth is I still hurt for DeDe just as deeply as I did the day I had her euthanized. I just don’t hurt every day like I used to.
There are grief counselors available to help us mourn our furry family members. If you need that, please get the help.
And if you need to talk, email me.
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I appreciate your taking the time, Jen. I heard the same thing from others about still mourning their pets. My vet, who was crying when she called me this morning, still grieves about her little dog, who passed four years ago.
I am already talking to a grief counselor. She mostly counsels people who have lost human loved ones, but who do we love more than our dogs? Anyhow, she seems to be helping. Thanks for your offer of talking too. If it gets too much, I may take you up on it.
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Oh Sandra, I can’t believe you have lost another one of your beloved dogs in the space of four months. You and your husband must be inconsolable.
My heart is crying with you my dear friend, please know that I am thinking of you with a heavy heart too.
RIP dear little Tilly Tot.
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Thanks, Barb. About all I can do is hang on right now. I am hoping that this new grief counselor will help. We are talking by Skype and it seemed to be helping. I don’t know about now, but I’ll try. I feel so funny right now…like I am moving through a dream, only, of course, I know this is real. I have been numb all day, wondering why I can’t cry. But your post brought tears to my eyes. I think that may be a good sign. I’ll talk later.
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Reblogged this on Rumpydog and commented:
Our friend Sandra has lost a second beloved furry companion in the span of a few months. I’m sure she’d appreciate you sharing a bit of comfort with her.
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How kind of you to share your followers with me for the loving comfort they are providing. You and Rumpy are the best!
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There is no magic wand to help with such grief. I’m glad you have a dog with you still who can provide some comfort. They have such healing spirits. As you find your feet, you might find it helpful to speak with a reputable animal communicator. I have found it helpful to hear from my companions after they pass. They explain things from their side, and it always helps.
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Thanks so much for posting. I never thought of an animal communicator. I will definitely look into that. I have so many questions for the two of them, but mostly I want to know if they are happy and comfortable in spirit.
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God has a new Angel now.
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Thanks, Barbara, for such a lovely thought.
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It is so sad to lose a pet sending you love and condolences
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Thank you for your understanding and healing wishes.
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I’m very sorry to hear about your loss….Tilly Tot are so lovely on those pictures……RIP Tilly Tot…
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Isn’t she beautiful? She was very photogenic and very brave. Thank you for your kind message.
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Hugs to you, I have been there and understand. They never leave our hearts, but it makes the grieving harder because they are such a part of us. I am so sorry. ❤
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Thank you. Your caring and understanding help so much.
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I am so sorry. Losing two friends in such a short time is devastating. There is nothing I can add that will help. It’s the old adage, one day at a time. Just know that you have a following of friends who are hurting for you too.
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Thanks, Kate. You are right…one day at a time is the way to cope right now. And believe me, I appreciate this following of friends more than I can say.
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I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve suffered such a great loss, and even sorrier to hear that you’ve had two awful losses in such a short time. We’ve been through the same kind of loss and understand how extremely difficult this is. Please know that even though we’ve just met (through Rumpy), our hearts are with you. Blessings to you and your family.
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Messages like yours from people who have been there truly help the healing. It seems it takes a special kind of person to understand and gently share the pain.
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Came from Rumpy’s blog to let you know I’m feeling your pain. Being that we only have dog children I understand. It’s never easy. I hope in some very small way that all the love coming to you from us animal lovers helps ease that pain in your heart. I’ll be thinking of you today. Love, Paulette
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Dear Paulette, thanks to Rumpy and Jen for all these lovely dog- and cat-loving people who are dropping by my blog. It is probably one of the most healing things that has happened in my long life. Thank you so much for taking the time and concern to join this flow of healing.
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Our heart felt sympathies. The loss of a loved one is difficult event in anyone’s life. My human says the passing of someone we love is a test. We must go on, but never forget.
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Thank you SandySays1. I must say you are a beautiful dog. Your human is right. I must go on, but I certainly will never forget.
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Even though I have never read your blog, I feel you pain. I lost two Scottie sisters within a month of each other. They were 8 years old and it happened so suddenly. Do not give up totally. It will take a while to seem more normal. The pain never goes away.
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Oh my, how awful for you. It was like that with Oreo…a total shock. He was only 6 years old. It was more anticipated with Tilly but still a terrible shock. Please accept my loving sympathy for your loss. You are very welcome to my blog.
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I’m new to your blog, but wanted to extend my sympathy. Last year we lost our two oldest cats and now have only one in the house. I understand how difficult it is to say goodbye to our companions.
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Catwoods, you do understand then. Thank you for your healing wishes. I am sorry for your loss as well. I am finding that time makes no difference to the feeling of loss, but I am sure when it stops hurting I will have my blog stories and my happy memories. Every day one of them made me laugh at least once. I will have to make my own laughter now.
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Sorry for your loss. Tilly Tot will always live in your heart.
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Indeed, she will, thibaud. Thank you for your words of comfort.
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I am so sorry for you. Do read this…. The Rainbow Bridge.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together…
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Oh thank you for this, mira65. Actually, I have known about the Rainbow Bridge for many years. After Oreo passed, I just wanted to go there and be with him. I have recovered from that desperate idea, but now with Tilly Tot, I am counting on seeing her with Oreo (who, in life, was her protector). That lovely reminder is very healing, and I know they will both be waiting for us when my time comes. Bless you.
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thanks Sandra…….may u recover soon.
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I share your pain via Rumpydog………. and I am so feeling for you at this moment…….. Over sixty years I have loved and lost so very many animals. The only way not to experience the awful loss is to hold back on the love we give them – and then how empty their lives and ours would be. I know it is hard at this moment, but someone else out there is needing your love. It is we who are left behind that do the emotional stuff, and whilst I know this well it still doesn’t stop the tears flowing for you as I write this. With Love and Light.
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OMG, you have brought tears to my eyes. This is a lovely, feeling, from the heart message. If it were just me, I would probably get another dog from our local animal rescue organization. But right now, my husband can’t even begin to think about another fur baby. We’ll see what happens as we go down the road. I do relate to your message and especially the third sentence. How empty our lives would be without that overpowering love, indeed. Thanks, creammagnolia.
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So very sorry to hear from Rumpy about your heartbreaking time. Please take some time off to lick your wounds. you’ll know then if or when you can enjoy sharing your life again. Feeling for you.
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Thanks so much. From the way you talk, it sounds like you have experienced this heartache as well.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I came to your blog via Rumpy and Jen and wanted to let you know that people are thinking of you.
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How kind you are, along with the rest of Rumpy and Jen’s followers. I wouldn’t have believed before how much these words from strangers mean to me. Thanks for dropping by and sharing them.
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(Sandra I am sorry to have submitted my comment twice, I went back earlier and it wasn’t displaying so I thought I had failed to post it. Please feel free to delete this and the duplicate comment.)
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I only see it once, but if it appears I will fix it. Please don’t worry about it…just your being here was so helpful and healing.
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My husband and I lost our senior cocker spaniels Sam and Blondie in 2011…we understand your pain. Give it time, grieve openly, grieve how you need to and in time, it’s taken us 3 years, you will find a new place in your heart.
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Thanks, Saymber, for your suggestions. Your double loss must have hurt so badly. It is encouraging to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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I’m glad to have some hope to share with you Sandra! I don’t think I’ll ever completely be over him but the grief is in a healthy place now…fond memories and love…has taken almost 4 years now! I honestly don’t ever plan to be completely over him and I’m hoping in my heaven he will be one of the first to greet me! I wanted to suggest some grieving tools. Writing (we wrote an E-book dedicated to Sam), drawing (I drew comics of all our favorite memories of Sam and Blondie) and ALOT of walking is what helped helped my husband and I the most. We both went through a lot of shoes but it helped us with our grief.
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Thanks for those suggestions. An editor friend of mine suggested I pull together a bookful of my blog posts about the three dogs and publish it just for me and any of my friends that would like it. That one interests me greatly. I would love to take long walks, but I am disabled and can’t walk too far. However, when my scooter gets fixed I plan to bomb around town this summer and take my lovely last little dog, Ling Ling, with me. I will not ever be over either of my little sweethearts. They made my life wonderful for the entire time they were with me. I should be glad I had them for so long.
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🙂 Hugs to you and I can just see you and your LL zipping around taking in the fresh air and sights! All will be well. Keep writing!!!
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Yeah, your description got me to see it too. lol All these great comments are inspiring me. I have started to have blog ideas about the past of the dogs and about Ling Ling (who is a real character in her own right). I might just pick up the old trusty (metaphorical) pen and give it another go.
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Hugs and paw waves sent
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Thanks for dropping by to comfort. I appreciate it. By the way, I love the name of your blog and will be taking a good look once I get my brain going again.
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Oh! I know this horrible pain and loss! My heart goes out to you!
I lost my Fussy this fall.
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So sorry about the loss of your beloved Fussy. I also lost my beloved Oreo in October. Thanks for your understanding and care.
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So terribly sorry to hear of Tilly Tot’s passing. Please know Sam and I are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. ❤
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Thanks, TAR. It’s a comfort to know that such a special therapy dog and his people-friendly mom are keeping me in their thoughts and prayers. (I dropped by your blog to have a look because its name had a similar theme to mine.)
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Thanks for the ‘paws-by.’ I hung out on yours a bit too and will check it out more closely. -Monika & Sam
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I am so very sorry for your loss. The hurt from losing a pet is quite devastating. My thoughts are with you.
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Thank you, Ramblin’ Pier. Your kindness is much appreciated.
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You are welcome.
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